Welcome to Whipple Tickles guide to all things sexy squirting. We are here to answer some of your many questions about squirting, from the basics like what it is and what it feels and looks like to tips on how to exploring squirting alone and/or with a partner.
One of the most common questions asked about this topic is; is squirting real? That is also one of the easiest questions to tackle because the answer is that yes, squirting is most definitely real and many people with a vulva experience it regularly. Hopefully this guide will help those who may have not experienced it yet or for whom the experience is new, but even if you are a seasoned squirter read on because maybe you will learn something new too.
What is Squirting?
Squirting, also sometimes known as female ejaculation, is the release of fluids from the Skene glands which are located near the urethra. It is often the result of g-spot stimulation, but not always. The Skene glands are surrounded by erectile tissue, similar to that of the clitoris. During arousal these glands fill with fluid which is then released from the urethra during intense sexual stimulation.
Is squirting pee?
This is probably one of the most common questions asked about the squirting and one of the most common myths. There are plenty of squirting deniers on the world who are adamant that squirting is not female ejaculate but pee. They are wrong. Research has shown that the fluid produced when someone with a vulva squirts does contain small amounts of urea but it also contains substances not found in urine such as Prostate-specific antigen (PSA).
What does squirting smell, taste and look like?
This will obviously vary from person to person. Things like how hydrated you are, and what you have eaten can have an impact, but generally the fluid is clear to slightly milky colour. Most people say it does not have much of a taste but like the lubricating fluid your vagina makes, which can be mixed up with this fluid it can have a slight tang or even delicate sweet taste. Mostly it doesn’t have any discernible scent but again it can have similar smell to your natural vagina/vulva scent. All these things can also be effected by hormones and so they may differ depending on where you are in your menstrual cycle.
What does it feel like to squirt?
Again a bit like the previous question it really can vary from person to person but many people describe having a strong sensation to pee and also a feeling of warmth/heat between your legs. The actual act of squirting often feels like a rush of warm fluid. Many people also say that it sometimes it can just happen, almost taking you by surprise. The first time it ever happened to me it took me by surprise. I really wasn’t sure what had happened. Suddenly there was this feeling of release and lots of wet. However with more experience you tend to learn how it feels for you and your body.
Is squirting an orgasm?
The sensation of squirting can be very different to orgasm. An orgasm usually creates a contracting, almost pulling up or tightening sensation whereas when you squirt it often feels more like an opening or releasing type sensation. For some women squirting and an orgasm can happen at the same time but often they are distinctly separate in nature. For some women they may squirt multiple times before finally having an orgasm.
Can anybody squirt?
Anybody with a vulva/vagina has the potential to squirt. Like all things related to bodies we are different and so for some people squirting is something that happens to them on a regular basis, for others it is something that happens now and then in very specific circumstances and there will be some people for whom it remains elusive. However there are certain things that can make it more likely to happen and so trying those things mean you can often learn how to squirt.
Is squirting safe and hygienic?
Before we get onto the how to part of this guide there is one last question that is fairly common and that is about safety and hygiene. Firstly squirting is completely safe just like having an orgasm. Of course if you are with a partner then you should take the usual safe sex measures and if you are using sex toys make sure that they are clean. Also a reminder that post orgasm you should always visit the bathroom and urinate and this is known to significantly reduce your chances of getting a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection)
With regards to hygiene you might want to think about covering the surface you will be sitting/laying on to protect it from the extra fluid that comes from squirting. If you are using your bed then at the very least you I would recommend putting some towels down to absorb those fluids but ideally you might want to invest in some fluid proof sheets to help protect your mattress.
How do I make myself Squirt?
Excellent question and definitely the place to start when trying to work out what may or may not work for you so that you can then potentially teach any partners you have how to do it for you too. So here are some top squirting tips for you starting with
How to Prepare to Squirt
- Make sure you are well hydrated. Drink plenty of fluids before hand and have a drink nearby while you play. Being well hydrated aids blood flow and also makes it easier for your body to produce other fluids such as those that lubricate your vagina and the fluid in the Skene Glands.
- Set aside some proper time for this exploration. This is not the time for a quickie wank session but the exact opposite. You want to be able to relax, luxuriate in your body and not be looking at the clock.
- Get comfortable. Your body needs to be able to relax and release so whatever place and position makes you feel that is key. Also make sure the lighting is relaxing and the room is nice and warm, or if you live in a hot climate, nice and cool. Basically all the things you need to be comfortable
- Don’t forget your waterproof sheets or towels, lube and any sex toys that you like to use when masturbating. In particular a curved dildo can be useful but also any vibe that you know works for you.
- One of the keys to squirting is often being very stimulated and turned on. Hence wanting time for a longer session so you can really build up the intensity of things. For some people watching porn can also help to get them really turned on so if porn is a thing that works for you, have some of your favourite hottest stuff lined up and ready.
- Spend lots of time getting in the sexy mood. Self touching, maybe use a vibe or any other sex toys that you like. Basically take your time.
Finding the g-spot.
- For most people with a vulva the g-spot is the key to squirting. It is located on the front wall of vagina and tends to have a slightly textured spongy feel but not always. For some people there is no discernible difference to the rest of the vagina wall so the only way to know you have found it is because it feels good/intense. For lots of people it tends to be about an 1inch from the vaginal opening but again, all bodies are different and for some it is higher up than that and for others it can almost just inside the vaginal opening.
- Take your time. Don’t rush in trying to find and stimulate the g-spot but enjoy the sensations. It maybe that finding it with your own fingers is awkward or not even possible which is why a curved g-spot dildo or vibrator can be really useful when it comes to squirting.
- Gradually build up the stimulation. Make sure everything is super wet and slick. Be generous with the lube! You want things to really feel good and the whole area to become infused with plenty of blood flow.
- Generally don’t be too rough but having said that for lots of people applying more intense pressure as you start to feel that hot sensation or the desire to pee is what triggers squirting.
- Don’t expect it to work first time and don’t give up or be disheartened if it does not happen.
- Play around with different positions. For some people being up on all fours or even standing up can help whilst for others laying on their back is the way. Hence don’t give up and continue playing and experiment on different occasions.
- Also try different times of your menstrual cycle as that might have an impact on your arousal.
- Unlike with an orgasm when you feel that happening you tend to tighten your pelvic floor muscles with squirting when you feel that pressure you kind of want to try and relax those muscles a bit more.
How can my partner make me squirt?
I am going to say something here that is about my personal experience. It is very rare for me to be able to squirt when I am masturbating alone because I find it very difficult to get the angle needed to stimulate my g-spot myself and so I have had the most success squirting when with a partner.
It can be much easier for a partner to curl their fingers up and stimulate the front wall of your vagina then it is for you to do it and the same even with a dildo or vibrator so even if you can’t seem to make it happen on your own it is possible that a helping hand (and definitely helping fingers) might make all the difference.
When it comes to squirting with a partner here are some helpful tips
- Obviously communicate with your partner beforehand about what you would like to do and your experience with squirting. Especially if you squirt often and it is a new partner it is worth mentioning so that they know that might happen.
- During the play make sure you give them plenty of feedback about what feels good etc but also encourage them to ask you and prompt as it can be easy to go silent if you are focusing on the sensation.
- Make sure they use plenty of lube and get them to curl their fingers upwards and explore the area on the front wall of your vagina. I have found finger stimulation by a partner in the right place is really important.
- You can also get them to experiment with different dildos and vibrators but also performing oral sex on your clit whilst they stimulate your vagina with their fingers or a toy can give just the right combination of stimulation to get things flowing.
Don’t forget your clit
We have talked a lot about internal stimulation and the g-spot but don’t forget the clit in all this juicy fun and games. A combination of sensations is definitely the ideal and so stimulating your clit at the same time is also important hence why sometimes it can be easier for some people with a partner as they can use their fingers or a toy inside you and you can stimulate your slit with your fingers or a toy, whichever is your preferred method.
Have fun! Try not to focus too much on squirting being the goal but make it about exploring your body and it’s responses and enjoying whatever those are that feel good for you. Squirting is not necessarily better or some sort of gold star of sexual performance. It is not a rite of passage that all people with a vulva should try and achieve. Do what feels good and right for you and your body and have fun with yourself and your partner(s) and you might find that relaxing and not thinking it is the key to squirting or you might discover that it’s not for you and your body. Just enjoy the pleasure you get from your body whatever that looks or feels like.