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The Basics Of Masturbation: 4 Tips To Going Solo


Throughout time, masturbation has been the victim of bad science and ignorant conjecture. Many of these myths still circulate. But no, too much ‘me time’ won’t cause erectile dysfunction – nor will it make you go blind or lead to any other debilitating repercussions.

Masturbation is an important part of sexual exploration and self-care. Even though men admit to masturbating every other day, we don’t talk about it openly. But we’re here to change that. So, grab a towel and get ready to explore the world of self-pleasure – here are our top tips to spice up your masturbation routine.

1. Lube up

Masturbation is a great way to explore desires. Adding lube to the mix can make the experience even more enjoyable. Lubricants reduce friction, making it easier and more comfortable to touch yourself – and lower the risk of tearing or other injuries.

There are different types of lube:

  • Water-based lubes are the most common – they’re easy to clean up and safe to use with sex toys. 
  • Silicone-based lubricants are longer-lasting and can be used in water – like when you feel like touching yourself in the shower or bath. 
  • Oil-based lubricants are not recommended for use with condoms as they can break them.

Grab your lube of choice, slather up, and enjoy the ride!

2. Experiment with strokes

It’s all about finding what feels best for you and learning how to love yourself – so don’t be afraid to try something new. For instance, making use of your whole hand can enhance pleasure. 

Take the time to explore different strokes and pressures, moving your hand up and down or side to side. Press down with your thumb and circle around with your other fingers – or try vibrational sensations or even gentle tapping. Change up the speed and vary the pressure. You can try using both hands to create different sensations.  

Pay attention to how your body responds to each stroke – and use what works for you. 

3. Mutual masturbation

Mutual masturbation can be an incredibly intimate and pleasurable experience for you and your partner. And it’s an excellent way to spice up life in the bedroom. It’s an opportunity to learn about each other’s bodies and build a trusting relationship. Not to mention, it’s incredibly sexy! You’ll enjoy the spectacular views. 

As you masturbate, you’ll become more familiar with your own body and, therefore, more confident in bed. Mutual masturbation is an amazing way to supercharge your sexual prowess with a partner. So, don’t be shy and explore.

4. Introduce toys

To take your masturbation to the next level, start using sex toys. 

If you have a vagina, try using a petite bullet vibrator to stimulate external hot spots. Plus, bullets are lightweight, small, and discreet – perfect for newbies. Once you feel comfortable, you can graduate to a slimline rabbit for better clitoris stimulation and simultaneous penetration.

If you have a penis, handheld masturbators are the way to go. We recommend first timers start with something simple, like a flesh light. Then you’re ready to take it up a notch, consider trying a small butt plug. They’re easy to insert and will heighten orgasms – or better yet, try using two toys at once for maximum pleasure. 

Explore and enjoy

Masturbating is a fun and liberating experience. Experimenting with different techniques, strokes, and sex toys can heighten your – and your partner’s – pleasure. It’s a great way to show some self-love. But remember, there’s no rush to climax. Sometimes just the journey is its own reward…

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